Category Archives: Random thoughts – keeping you on your toes

Fenced In

We are surrounded by barriers.  These range from our own internal inhibitions to those defined by our governments (and everything in between).

Building Fences

To some extent building barriers, for example a fence around your house (or a moat around your castle) is a natural human behaviour.  The fence defines our boundaries, it says to others this is my space, don’t violate it.

The extent that each of us uses barriers depends on our personality (e.g.  introverted or extroverted) but it is also a learned behaviour from our childhood.

Typically, in most cultural settings the parents set examples and provide guidance to their children around respecting others boundaries while expecting their own barriers will be accepted.

Leaping Tall Buildings

There is a time and place when finding ways to break out of both the physical and mental blockages, that follow us through life, can be very beneficial.

Hindsight and remorse are behaviours that highlight times when pushing the boundary might have been a good choice.  Times when you are thinking things like “I wish I had done that”. or “Wow, if only I acted I could have been rich.”

Recognizing that fences have a purpose  but sometimes climbing the fence is justifiable can help you navigate the barriers that exist throughout your life travels.

Balance is the byword, precipitously leaping tall buildings at the wrong time could  hurt (perhaps badly), however missing the opportunity can be painfull as well.

Think through the pros and cons before vaulting the blockade but it it make sense don’t let arbritrary walls slow you down.

Connecting the Results

People, both individually and in teams spend a significant amount of time and effort working to accomplish something.  Hopefully the achievement is both admirable and creditable.

The process of accomplishment usually starts with conception – what is the goal.  This is the ideation phase.  Planning is next, that is how are we going to proceed?

Once the plan is in place execution occurs and voila, the results are heralded as an accomplishment.  In the case of a group accomplishment this often entails back patting and declarations of achievement (i.e., we did it).

Measuring the Results

During ideation and planning work, the reasons for pursuing a particular achievement are paraded as motivators.  In essence the point is “I/we are going to accomplish this thing because it is worth doing”

Sadly, although the tasks arising from the idea are often completed the desired results are not achieved.  In these cases just the fact something was accomplished is paraded as success.

Checking the Achievement

Wondering how actual results mapped to the imagined benefits of a number of accomplishments I once totaled all the monetary benefits from a years worth of initiatives at a large corporation.

The value of increased revenue estimated for all the completed projects was less than the company’s total revenue for the company. Clearly, for some of these initiatives what seemed like a good idea at the time did not turn out to be all it was sold as.

For me, over this just highlights the value of confirming the accomplishment rather than just assuming it.  This is not to punish but rather to guide future directions.

Whatever you are seeking to accomplish, personal or business, check how you did before leaping to the next attempt.  Completion is not necessarily accomplishment.

Self Motivated

If one of your go to behaviours includes being  motivated to act simply based on your own enthusiasm toward getting things accomplished, you are self motivated.

In essence this means you would typically  be demonstrating  a high level of initiative, that is the ability to assess and start things independently.

Self Managing

Leaders seek people to join their groups who both act without being asked or told (initiative) but also can self manage, that is being fully responsible for thier actions.

Peoples behaviour will always create an  impact and without acknowledging and accepting responsibility for that impact (i.e., outcomes) of your behaviour there is a higher risk of bad behaviour (i.e.,  you don’t worry about the results, it is someone elses responsibility).

Initiative alone, without self management, can produce unexpected and even unwanted results.

Oversight

Demonstrated initiate coupled with satisfactory self management can result in a high performing team or group.  The hands off style of leadership can be very effective with these teams, and micro-managing can be detrimental.

The teams productivity is high because the work self motivation typically results in a high level of personal satifaction by those that practice it.

One failing I often see with hands off management of highly motivated groups is the mistaken belief that given the skills and abilities of the group members oversite is not needed or can be a minimal levels.

Granted one of the benefits of self motivated, self managed teams is that direct oversight is not needed.   This does not mean leaders and mangers do not need to be well informed.

 

 

Cultural Motivation

Taken as a whole, countries are typical examples of places with a fairly clear set of customary beliefs, social forms, and material traits of a racial, religious, or social group.

Or simply stated, countries have a unique culture embraced by their populations.  This does give rise to stereotypes or unconscious bias but in the case of countries, there is always some root basis to the cultural interpretation.

For example, Canadian culture is often stereotypically defined as polite.  Not all Canadians exhibit excessive politeness or repeatedly apologize but on the whole, this is a national trait and arises from a natural observation of the populous as a whole.

How does this happen

Assuming you can except national cultural stereotypes exist and do have some basis in reality, the question becomes, how does this happen?

The most common methodology is for cultural behaviors to be enforced, largely through consequences.  From a young age, we are trained to conform to societal beliefs through the carrot (positive consequences) and the stick (negative consequences).

Some societies, I believe Japan is a good example of this, develop conformance to the expected behaviors collaboratively.   That is through example and individual interaction where the reason for the overarching beliefs is developed individually, not forced but absorbed.

While much harder to achieve, absorption of cultural values through self-learning rather than enforced training is much more effective and most importantly sustainable.

Left or Right (somewhere in the middle)

The downside, to both practices of forming a common culture, is the impact on the individual.   The balance between total individual freedom (anarchy) and a rigidly established society (authoritarian) is the sweet spot cultures should naturally try and attain.

When cultures grow organically they are more likely to be balanced.

Taking Flight

Get airborne, drive fast when you come to a bump in the road if your speed is great enough your car will leap into the air.    Metaphorically speaking, your life travels can be eased by not getting hung up on the barriers.

Common sense must prevail, the reality of speeding over a road bump, or crashing into a barrier to blast it out of the way, could be painful and destructive.

Drive with Caution

Conceptually, resolving your issues and challenges can be achieved by addressing them directly (i.e., crashing through the barrier) and this approach should not be discarded lightly.

However, some caution is warranted lest the problem, rather than overcome, becomes worse.  The key takeaway is not to let obstacles stop you from soaring.

A Balanced Approach

Aggressively addressing the bump in the road so you fly over it might not be the best method but not trying and letting the barrier impede your forward progress is not optimal either.

The balanced approach begins with recognizing the issue or challenge and consciously acknowledging the need to succeed with your goal, overcoming the problems.

This might not mean charging forward blindly, but recognize the potential roadblock and don’t let it stop you.  This is not about trying but rather knowing you can try.

Stopping before you are airborne leaves you grounded.  While you might not achieve great height, at least attempt to leave the ground.

 

Alignment

While it is not always true that multiple resources can complete a task more efficiently, it is often the case.  In simple terms, efficient means in a well-organized and competent way.

Efficient work is usually faster and of a higher quality.  For a number of people to work together toward a common goal, that is all are contributing to an outcome (product or service), alignment of approach is a critical underpinning.

Confusion Reigns

Say you are washing the dishes with a familly member.  There are a number of interelated tasks for your team to complete.  Things like putting leftover food away, scraping the plates before hand washing in the sink or putting in the dishwasher.

These tasks apply to the pots.  Condiments have to be stored and the table cloth shaken or replaced and washed.

The participants in the clean-up need to be aligned as to approach, i.e., who is doing what, how and when.  Without alignment confusion takes over and the end result is not arrived at efficiently.  It will be slow and messy, frustrating for the participants.

Conceptual Alignment

How to approach achieving your objectives, what you are trying to achieve and how you are going to get there is not only a key to being efficient but also drives everyones contentment.

If all are not on the same page, trying to read the book together is never going to work.  This does not mean everyone must like everyone else or even agree, but they must be able to both accept and align their behaviour to the common approach.

In essence all must either agree or be able to say I don’t agree this is best but I can support and comfortably live with this approach.

The Man Cold

I recently contracted a cold.  It began with an irritated throat, migrated to a stuffy nose and sinuses ultimately leading to overall fatigue, aches and pains.

I never complain about such minor illness, but I did mention it to my wife who passed on the information to my daughter.  “Oh he has a man cold eh!” she said.

The Man Cold

Not being current on all the latest jargon I decided to investigate the meaning behind the phrase.   It is  defined as an affliction usually caught by boyfriends or husbands, exhibiting cold-like symptoms, but no one has ever been as sick or tired as one who catches the man cold.

Really, I was beginning to sense I was the victim of an unconcious bias propagated by the female species.  This was how strong, self motivated and independent males were being viewed.

Digging Deeper

I continued my search and the level of sarcasm increased.

“The name ‘man cold’ disguises the true terrible, debilitating disease that is the man cold. Nearly all men will die from man colds unless they are administered immediately with large amounts of mindless TV such as Big Bang Theory or childrens’ songs (the wiggles anyone). It is essential that they not move from bed or a comfy sofa to allow for rehabilitation and must have tissues and man cold medicine (such as chocolate biscuits, McDonalds, or a nice cup of tea) brought to them constantly by a nearby female.”

Sadly for me I had to suffer in silence and care for myself.  No sympathy.   Of course I had the deadly man cold but it’s a good thing I am a manly man and can take care of myself.

Social Norms

The groups or communities we are part of  at any given point in time, usually have an accepted individual behavior expectation, this is the social norm.

Whatever your cutural group, whether all encompassing like a country or large organization to a micro community, (e.g., family, neighbors, friends) usually we quickly aquire and practice the expected behaviours.

Social norms and Age

I have personally observed, both in myself and others that the motivation to adhere to social norms diminishes with age.  This feeds the stereotype, “ they are just a cranky oldster, it’s to be expected”.

In point of fact the desire to conform is motivated to a large degree by the need for acceptance.  The concept of self actualization includes being a happy group member.

Self actualization is a phychologists way of describing the search for a state of maximum personal comfort, that is inner peace.  We all need and desire it and low levels of self actualization can lead to undesirable behaviours.

The drive for self actualization is typically a lifelong journey.  When not achieved, whether through acting out, or trending inward the results can be considered anti-social.

Back to Aging

As we get older most of us have accepted our state of belonging, that which we have achieved over time and are comfortable with the status-quo. Our drive for self actualization is lessened.

In the majority of cases,  changing your circumstances, gaining additional acceptance and the associated drive to do so simply wains with age.

This does not translate to old people not caring how they are percieved but rather not needing to care.  They can easily practice social norms and most will do so on the drop of a dime if provided the right motivation.

 

 

What you see is not what you get

Understanding what you see, hear and feel is an oft underated skill.  Frequently people take direct meaning from  their sensual  observations whithout taking time to consider.

The data you gather via your senses is not information.  That is, it has not been contextualized but is just a raw interpretation.  Parsing the data, that is analysing a string of symbols for syntax , is needed to transform it into information.

Why bother?

Turning what you percieve through sight, hearing, touch and so on requires effort.  What is the value proposition?  The fictional character Sherlock Holmes provide a good example of possible outcomes when observations are not taken at face value.

Sherlock often astounded the other characters in the mystery novels by deducing information based on the data in ways that were not imminently obvious to most (both readers and other fictional characters)

The approach to considering the data, treating it like a logic puzzle and following the trail to uncover valuable information (i.e., solve the mystery) appears simple, yet it is not a common practice.

The danger of directly following our default interpretation of what we observe can be ,costly, painful or embarrassing.  Who has not arrived at a confusing point or frustrated others by following erroneous conclusions.

Take your time

A key underlying approach to understanding is not to rush.  Quick thinking has gotten many a person into trouble.  Check your conclusions before acting by running the possibilities through your mind, pause, consider, then proceed.

Motivation

Most of us practice some form of work on a regular basis.  That is simply performing  activities involving mental or physical effort.  As I have noted before, financial compensation is not a mandatory characteristic of work.

Being paid to work, while common, is just one way to provide motivation.  Work involves effort and so typically, I would say almost exclusively, requires some form of compensation.

Without a reason why would one undertake the effort associated with work?  The motivating factors run the gaumont from satisfying one or more of our basic needs  (i.e., Maslow’s heirarchy of needs) to simple pleasure seeking.

Most Powerful Motivator

Self actualization is at the top of Maslow’s heirarchy and simply put this is the drive to realize one’s full potential.  From the psychological perspective it is believed the need to excel is instinctive.

This compliments my oft stated observation that life is all about me.  It is a very useful observation when attempting to motivate both yourself and others.

While basic needs like food, shelter, warmth, security and sense of belonging have some urgency from moment to moment, overall self actualization is the key.

I interpret this as meaning the drive for success and accomplishment are underlying  all motivation.  It is therefore critical to plan to succeed before attempting the work (regardless of whom is undertaking the work – yourself or others).

Setting yourself or others up for success before undertaking work is not only a tired overused buzz phrase, it is really a critical truth.