Believe

Ninteenth century German author and statesman Johann Goethe said “Man is made by his belief.  As he believes, so he is “.   That is, the things you have trust, faith and confidence in define who you are.

This implies people without beliefs are undefined.  Further if you know what someone believes you can predict how they will behave.  You can anticipate their responses.

To a large degree my own interactions with others prove this to be true.  The caveat is assuming you can accurately assess others beliefs.

Purposeful misdirection is a very real technique people can employ to gain advantage.  For example, one  might protray a strong belief in justice while in practice behaving soley in favour of their own personal gain, regardless of fairness.

Followers

Often followers fall into the group of those with undefined beliefs.  In these cases what appear to be their own beliefs are in fact those of another they are copying.

It is often hard to distinguish followers from true believers but this group is a favorite of unscrupulous leaders.  The follower can be manipulated into professing the leaders beliefs, thus supporting a cause that defines not themselves, but rather the leader.

Reason to Believe

If nothing else motivates you, the critical reason to believe (in something) and acknowledge that belief internally is because your beliefs will define you.   To ensure personal accountability and ownership of your life you must believe.

Fear

I read a great definition of fear the other day.  It was described as an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat.

On the surface fear is a valuable emotion.  It can help you to craft appropriate response to danger.  This could save you from suffering unpleasant consequences.

Unfortunately fear is also a tool that can be used by the unscrupulous to gain advantage.  There are multiple examples through the ages where power seekers have used fear to gain and sustain power.

For Example

Last century the German dictator Hitler leveraged attacks on Jewish people (and  other groups like the Communists or what he called inferior races, for example Slavic) to achieve and maintain absolute power over the German populous.

As far back at ancient Greece humankind has recognized the power of using enemies (real or imagined) to achieve personal gain.  Like a magician, this use of misdirection can hide the dictators true nature.

And now Donald Trump

Last Friday the President of the United States (Donald Trump) signed an executive order to stop vistors from seven largely Muslim countries.

He is leveraging fear of terroism to advance his own agenda.  Obviously the majority from the targeted countires are normal contentious, caring humans.  Like anywhere there are a few deviants    and this can in no way be ascribed to where you live or your religion.

Having a visible enemy to direct enmity toward for his own gain is President Trumps purpose.  It is sad the American populous appears unable to stop him.

Complaining

A complaint is an expression of dissatisfaction or annoyance about a state of affairs or an event.   In my experience complaining about things is a natural behavior, common to both myself and everyone I know.

For What Purpose?

Assuming there is some sort of motivation driving any particular behavior I wonder what motivates complaining.  That is, the behavior is focused on the negative, whats the value of that?

Logically the purpose probably falls into one of the following or in some cases multiple categories:

  • To effect a change.  For example things like; a repair, acknowledgement of fault; restitution and so  on
  • To make yourselve feel better by voicing your feelings, letting it go
  • Political manuevering to gain advantage (in theses cases the target of your complaint is something you want to discredit)
  • Group think, responding to peer pressure and joining the crowd, demonstrating you are with them not the others that are being complained about. (You belong to the IN crowd)
  • Pure vindictiveness, it’s an attack after all

Tread Carefully!

Complaining can develop feelings of self righteousness, morphing into indignation.  This might help you resolve some of your own  issues, but we are social animals and live with others.

Arrogant behaviours are not usually appreciated by others and could backfire on you.  Worse, constant complaining ( which is negative by definition)  can make you feel bad and unhappy.

For these reasons complaining  should be used sparingly and cautiously.  Understand exactly what you are trying to achieve and stop when you get it or if it appears you are not going to achieve your goal.

The negative results on you personally of uncontained complaining can be quite significant.

Chaplains and Religions

Today at the University of Alberta, a new non-denominational meditation/prayer center held an open house.  Several of my collegues attended.

My collegues ended up having a discussion with a chaplain that was in attendence and mentioned this me.  They were not familiar with term/role of a chaplain.

Need for Nondenominational spiritual guidance

I explained chaplains were spiritual leaders in non-denominational roles.  Organizations or institutions like armies, prisons and secular educational institutes require these roles to serve their constituents,  who come from a variety of backgrounds.

A key attribute of all major religions is a common belief that there is a God.  The detailed practices and beliefs may vary but belief in one God does not.

So, for me, a chaplain is a fabulous construct.  A spiritual leader that does not incite violence or hatred in the name of disparate religious practices but rather guides a focus on the key underpinning of religion, i.e., the common faith in a single deity.

Join hands, respect others travel in peace

Examples of religious  persecution  are common throughout mankinds history, yet it makes little sense given the core fundemental of each religion is the same.

Why couldn’t all religious leaders be like chaplains, that is agnostic to the specific tenets of whatever the religious type (Islam,Muslim, Catholic, Jewish and so on)?

 

 

Keystone is back – abuse of power?

One person can reject an $8 billion oil pipeline, as former U.S. President Obama did when he exercised his veto.  And one person can override the veto as current President Trump plans to do.

President Trump rejected the TPP (Trans Pacific Trade Protocol) and asked Trans Canada Pipelines to reapply for Keystone pipeline approval.  These are two separate points but both occurred this week.

Should one person wield such singular power?

In Canada the Head of State is largely a ceremonial role.  The leader of the elected political party (the Prime Minister) has little stand alone power and needs to rely on the consensus of elected officials to approve or reject things like trade agreements.

Canada is a monarchy led the the Queen of England whom is technically the Head of State. In the U.S. the President, as Head of State is elected and therefore it is possibly reasonable he or she could have greater unilateral authority.

This is not to say the U.S. senate and congress are not valid counterpoints to the balance of power, still though, there are things a President can proclaim uni-laterally.

Not withstanding the nations checks and balances (congress, senate and the judiciary) with a President like Mr. Trump I do get a bit uneasy.  More so than I would if say Rob Ford (deceased) had ever become the Prime Minister of Canada.

North Americans, if not the entire world, are in for an interesting four years as Mr. Trump flexes his muscles.

Ultimately, environmental decisions taken in the context that global warming and destruction of the earth are myths that should not stand in the way of progress could be his legacy.

I guess I am lucky to probably be dead by the time the impacts are really seriously being felt.

At least two ways to travel (or more)

Lately, for reasons unknown, my collegues and I have been exploring philoshophical and practical ideas associated with multiple options.  Yesterday’s post focused on individuals and multiple positions they might have.

Today is about the multiple ways to  a destination.

Its a two way street!

Collaberative group decisions and agreements (even if just a group of two) depend not only on the participants positions but also on which bi-ways and highways you choose to arrive at the decision.

There are always multiple paths to follow.  Today’s musing is about how you get to the destination.  Is it the winding mountain path, multi lane super highway or even a road not yet constructed and you need to blast your way through?

Also, to confuse the issue the directions chosen by different participants can be opposite at first (i.e., its a two way street and people are going both ways). You need to be careful to avoid head on collisions.

To make things more difficult, not only might the directions be opposite but the conclusions (i.e., the ultimate destination) might not be in sync.

Herding Cats

Traditionally people believe herding cats to be a difficult task.  Cats are perceived as individual and strong willed.  Getting them to follow common routes can be challenging.

The best approach is not to challenge this.  Remember, everyone is important.  This should be your mantra.  Respect everyones chosen direction.

Determining a common path for everyone to follow , through  dialogue and communication results in the best solution.  Not only is everyone going in the same direction on the same road, but it is by choice.

There are always at least two sides.

For this post I am going to dissect the old truism, “There are always two sides” .  I believe there is some real accuracy within this statement when you dive in a little deeper.

I will begin by clarifying the context.  In this discussion I consider the statement as it applies to a situation where more than one person is involved.

Lets Start with Sides

My simple take on this is a “side” represents a position.  Of key importance is the simple reality that each participant  will have a position.  Often we assume the statement implies these positions will be different.

In fact the number of positions is equal to the number of individuals involved but each position might be the same or very close to the same.

Reaching Consensus

Given any multiple person interraction will involve multiple positions (sides) the first step toward agreement (positions are equal) or consensus (positions are complimentary) is to determine what the various positions are.

This clear and open communication of each position enables determination of the best approach to resolution, i.e., full agreement, concensus agreement or full disagreement.  (Although it might not be an optimal resolution, agreeing to disagree and whatever action is associated with that, is still a resolution)

It is not bad, in fact it would be unusual to have less then one position per involved stakeholder.  The point here is not about whether there are multiple positions or not (because there are) but rather how you deal with them.

Living with Yourself

This post is advice on how to consistently you are comfortable with yourself.

When you behave in a certain way,  the best approach to ensuring you have no regrets is to manage your behaviour in ways that ensure it was what you wanted to do.

In essence, this means acknowledging your behaviour choices as your own and yours alone.  For example, consider the statement “He made me mad so I behaved badly”.

No Regrets

You might regret the way you responded in anger and even beat yourself up with self talk.  The outcome is probably not positive from your perspective and blaming the other takes the edge off.

Blame, unfortunately,  does not solve the problem.  You feel bad the other participant feels bad.  It does not have to be this way.  That is not to say it’s inappropriate or inadvisable to follow your emotions or react in the moment.

The key is, before any reaction, ask yourself in the moment, “Is this how I want behave, is this right, is it fair, is it justifiable?”. When your answer is yes, whatever the resulting outcome  – negative or positive –  because you made a conscious  decision, all will be fine with you.

Accountability Matters

Consciously deciding what to do, how to behave means you accepted accountability in the moment.  When you have internal support of knowing the personal accountability was yours, it is highly unlikely you will have any regrets.

Whats your culture

Whatever your day to day activities are, from corporate professional, charitable or non profit support to a life of leisure and everything in-between, it’s likely to involve other individuals or groups in some way.

How you interact with others, (whether formally prescribed, informally or somewhere in-between)  is the defining attribute of the culture you are most immersed in (assuming this about a regular day by day role you perform ongoing).

How do you feel about your culture?

I like the definition of culture fron anthropologist  E.B.Taylor.   “that complex whole which includes knowledge, belief, art, morals, law, custom and any other capabilities and habits acquired by man as a member of society.”

When you consider the culture you are immersed in as part of your daily routine, do you like it?  This is a subjective question typically influenced by your own values.

If the cultural complex whole you are a part of on a regular basis does not map to your basic beliefs, morals, custom and habits (i.e., the underpinning of values) then you are likely to be unhappy.

Influencing, Adopting, Maturing

In the case of a cultural mismatch, changing your circumstances is certainly an option.  Other choices are changing yourself and adapting to the culture or influencing changes in the culture itself.

Choosing to stick it out and live with your unhappiness is probably the worst option to choose.

 

Everything Changes

About 10 years ago I stopped going to MacDonalds.  This was nothing in particular against the restaurant chain, just the food is really not the healthiest and my wife decided, no more.

Of course I had been eating at MacDonalds since I was sixteen and we frequently took our children there (they do after all cater to kids, who does not like the happy meal toy?)

I thought it was forever!

Given myself and family regularly ate at MacDonalds for over forty years I am quite familiar with the architecture, layout, tables, counter, service methodology and so on.

And really, in forty years there has been little change.  I was eating big Mac’s in the 1960’s and I can still get them today.  The cash registers became digital and I could pay by debit but these were not huge changes.

But I was wrong!

My wife had a dinner engagement tonight and although I am an excellent cook and relatively self sufficient I decided to just do a quick trip to MacDonald’s.

Suddenly I was shocked, MacDonald’s have changed the way you order and receive food.  Maybe for the better but certainly not for a traditionalist.

Is nothing sacred?  Do I really want to custom order a burger from MacDonald’s at a kiosk, or even using my smart phone.  Then wait at a counter for my number to be called.

A number, at MacDonald’s, horrors.

The future is here

Wow, I can rest easy the digital future is here and now it is endemic.  Fortunately MacDonald’s is no longer a fast food choice for us, I don’t think I could go back – unless I can find an old fashioned styled franchise.