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Hidden Agenda

Peoples knowledge and experience underpin their behaviour.  If you ask someone for advice on hammers and their knowledge base is nails, it’s likely their counsel, although obstensively about hammers will derive from the nails perspective.

Of course there is great opportunity to be had through leveraging peoples diverse backgrounds ( what they know and have done) but it is not easy.

The effort required to extract everyones best behaviour and integrate it with everyone elses is not trivial.  My own experience is the results more than justify the effort.

Facilitation

Facilitation covers any activity you undertake that makes tasks for others easy.  In this case the task is to bring diverse knowledge and subjective assessments together in a cohesive whole.

The critical skill is to facilite the interaction without appearing to do so.  The facilitator needs to be independent and willing to focus on the goal and making the task of getting to it easier.

This requires a deft touch.  In a sense, you are leading a group down a path, however if you become perceived as a leader or trying to lead your facilitation effectiveness is suddenly greatly diminished.

True facilitators are neutral.

Guide

Your goal is to guide others interractions to the best conclusion possible.  To do this you must not participate.  Agreement or disagreement with the discussion is your nemisis.  Your only objective is a positve high quality result.

The participants knowledge and experience, bound together in a cohesive way is all you need to obtain the objective.

 

Figuring it out

When making a decision we use information to figure out how to proceed.  The information is basically interpreted through one or both of two lenses.  Those perspectives are commonly classified as objective and subjective.

Objective Analysis

Taken as an adjective, as in objective analysis or objective perspective, the term refers to an interpretation of information in a way that is not influenced by personal feelings or opinions.

When considering and representing facts objectively your behaviour is described by others as impartial, unbiased, unprejudiced, nonpartisan, disinterested, neutral, uninvolved, even-handed, equitable, fair, fair-minded, just, open-minded, dispassionate, detached or neutral.

To do this, the information must not only be interpreted objectively but the sources must be objective as well.  Truly objective data cannot be tortured into saying anything.

Subjective Analysis

Again considered as an adjective, subjective analysis is
based on or influenced by personal feelings, tastes, or opinions.  In essence the opposite of the objective view.

When considering and representing the facts subjectively your behaiour can be described as personal opinions, individually based, emotionally driven and perhaps  instinctive or intuitive.

Back to Balance

A theme that runs through many of my posts surrounds the benefits derived from balanced behaviour.  Using both objective and subjective perspectives in balance is a great example of this practice (balancing opposites).

This can also be described as the Art and Science of decision making.  Founding a decision purley on logic can result in the bi-passing of moral and emotional well being .

Purely emotional views can lead to high risk and even result in the goal not being reached.  Keep in mind, the next time you are making a decision both objective and subjective perspectives add value.

Recognize when you are using each and maintain an equitable balance, this will most likely lead to figuring out the way to consistently good decisions?

 

 

 

Exploring Integrity

Integrity is defined as the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles; moral uprightness.

Morale principles are defined as the principles of right and wrong that are accepted by an individual or a social group.  The practice of honesty lies in a refusal to lie, steal, or deceive in any way.

Put it together, What does it mean?

Determining if someones behaviour is honest can be a relatively objective measure.   In most cases, an act of lying, stealing or deceiving  are agreed by consensus.

That is, a randomly selected group would most likely easily achieve consensus and agree that a lie, theft or deceit occurred.

However, that is  not necessarily the case relative to identification of the perpretrator of said action, which is why we have our court/trial system, to enable the fair judgement of guilt.

For moral behaviour it is a very objective judgement, that can be individual or group specific,  as to what constitutes moral behaviour. This makes determination of whether an action was moral very difficult.

How can I be sure to act with integrity?

While honesty can be determined with little debate, this is not the case when it comes to qualifying what constitutes moral behaviour. This can create a dilemma when you want to act with integrity.

The question arises, what does it mean to be moral?   I recently participated in a discussion with that question at it’s center.  Basically, “I want to do this action, but is it ethical?”

Unfortunately the determination of ethicality contained a large subjective component around the moral correctness, not the truthfulness.

In these cases, my own approach is to apply my personal philosophy for the way to live your life.  The action is okay and ethical as long as it gives me pleasure while not detracting from the pleasure of others.

 

Adversarial Conduct

Adversarial discussions are characterized by conflict or opposition and lurking  beneath the covers, probably some hostility.  Too often, these conversations stem from assumptions of intention.

It may start with some innocent questions for clarification.  The other stakeholder assumes you are against what they are trying to achieve and the adversarial dance begins.

Sadly!

A simple misinterpretation of intentions can derail a potential productive interaction which should have gold at the end of the rainbow.  Even clarifying intentions often won’t put it back on track.

Sadly this type of behavior occurs regularly in most organizations.  It is of course exacerbated by cultural bias, but it is not unusual to see the dance occur, regardless of culture.

To my amusement, often I observe  those who are actually in violent agreement (based on what they are saying) but appear to be just the opposite (i.e., violent disagreement).

Just Listen

The root cause of this type of adversarial discussions lies with  misunderstood intentions.  These stem from listening skills.  That is not just hearing the words but rather the message.

For me as I watch the head butting, or even when I am the object of head butting it never ceases to amaze how agreement is manipulated into disagreement.

Don’t Get Hooked

The way out of these situations is to ensure you are not “hooked” by the others.  That is often the intention of the other party.  They believe if they can just get the hook firmly embedded in your throat they can hall you in.

Unfortunately the result is usually dissatisfaction to all which is of course really unfortunate since the whole situation was actually on the brink of a great collaboration.

Ah, to behave like a human – we are just animals after all.

 

 

Personal Financial Management

Having a financial plan ( that is a document of what is going to be done by whom and when relative to your finances) is a critical underpinning of your personal financial health. However, without validation, the plan looses a lot of value.

Annual Review

Personally I think a review as least annually is the minimum although some probably like to check how there are doing more often.  Less often provides to great a risk that important adjustments get missed and ultimately result in the plan no longer being achievable.

I do my reviews on a calendar year basis and have 2016’s currently underway – hence this post.

What is it?

Simply put the review should consist of four things:

  • Income – How much was it and where did it come from.    This could be on a before or after tax basis (if after tax you don’t need to track taxes as a separate expense item).
  • Expense – what did you spend your income on, the use of categories here to group expenses is pretty well mandatory so the document is not unwieldy.  It should have enough detail though to be enable meaningful analysis and decisions.
  • Income less Expense –  This is pretty important.  If you are spending more than your income some adjustment is likely needed.
  • Investment Income –  I do a more detailed separate breakdown on this income because of the risk and volatility associated with it.   The focus of this review is obviously realized and unrealized capital, interest and dividend incomes (or losses but I try to avoid those.)

For What time frame?

The longer period the data covers the better and this is really key for good retirement planning.  For me the data covers 20 years.

Now the question is, based on this data, are things proceeding as you planned?

That means focusing on questions like;

  • Are there unexpected increases in expenses?
  • Considering what stage your plan is at is the increase in net income or decrease as expected?
  • Is inflation occurring at expected levels (e.g., checking the average cost of property tax over time – assuming the base property is the same gives a sense of what percent it is creeping up – 20 years of data really help with this.)

And so on.  The same type of thought process can be applied to your investment portfolio.

And finally, figure out what you need to change, adjust the plan and you are good until next year.

Note:  Net worth analysis and change over time, future income forecasts, and expense forecasts, market and inflation analysis, security considerations (e.g., insurance) are all advanced attributes but this post is focusing on the basics.

 

What state are you in?

Regardless of what you do every day (e.g., work for money, pleasure, charity, retired etc) you can classify how you feel about the surrounding culture/ environment into one or more of four categories.

Each category defines your behaviour and motivates your actions. These are:

  1. unsatisfying/ does not meet your needs
  2. a good match that inspires you
  3. not perfect for you but presents an opportunity to influence change
  4. not to your liking but you accept it

Recognizing your environmental category is an important skill (self awareness) .  It helps you conciously act on the unconcious behavior drivers associated with the culture you are emeshed in.

Self awareness is an empowering skill that allows you to ensure your behaviour is appropriate to the circumstances.  That is, control how you act separate from how you feel, to ensure positive outcomes.

Unsatisfying

Typically you would be motivated to leave this environment as soon as feasible.  This is not usually a happy place for you.  Don’t let your feelings drive bad (inappropriate ) behaviour.

Good Match

Embrace the environment.  That is, embrace how things are and thrive.  Should not be hard.  In this case, you are fully comfortable with the culture.

Not Perfect

There is a real opportunity here to create an environment you would consider a good match and it’s worth trying to do so.  Impact and influence behaviours are key.  Have fun with it.

Not to your liking

This situation is the hardest to take and can morph into deciding to leave.  Normally there is some real motivation to stay (e.g., need the money and cannot readily find a replacement).  Usually you feel trapped, unhappy and stressed.  This is a category you want to move away from as quickly as possible.

Living with Yourself

This post is advice on how to consistently you are comfortable with yourself.

When you behave in a certain way,  the best approach to ensuring you have no regrets is to manage your behaviour in ways that ensure it was what you wanted to do.

In essence, this means acknowledging your behaviour choices as your own and yours alone.  For example, consider the statement “He made me mad so I behaved badly”.

No Regrets

You might regret the way you responded in anger and even beat yourself up with self talk.  The outcome is probably not positive from your perspective and blaming the other takes the edge off.

Blame, unfortunately,  does not solve the problem.  You feel bad the other participant feels bad.  It does not have to be this way.  That is not to say it’s inappropriate or inadvisable to follow your emotions or react in the moment.

The key is, before any reaction, ask yourself in the moment, “Is this how I want behave, is this right, is it fair, is it justifiable?”. When your answer is yes, whatever the resulting outcome  – negative or positive –  because you made a conscious  decision, all will be fine with you.

Accountability Matters

Consciously deciding what to do, how to behave means you accepted accountability in the moment.  When you have internal support of knowing the personal accountability was yours, it is highly unlikely you will have any regrets.

Outside Influences

Regular readers will know that I am a strong believer in the philosophy of personal accountablity.  Your behaviour, how  you feel, in essence your life style, only has one owner – you.

Even if you are a beliver and practitioner of your own absolute control over your destiny,  the influence your day to day environment has can be very powerful.

What we do each day matters

Whether your daily routine is working for someone, for yourself, taking care of others or any of the numerous ways we keep ourselves occupied day in and day out, regardless of how strongly you believe in your ability to fully control how you feel and act, the daily routine has a powerfull impact on your ability to do so.

(That last sentence is a doozy so you may want to read it again slowly.)

If you need a change, make it so

When you recognize the power of the environmental influences is impacting your ability to maintain control, that is continuing to feel good about yourself is a chore it might be time to seek a change in your main daily activities (e.g., your job or business)

Typically is this a difficult decision and a hard one to arrive at.  Some are fortunate that their employer makes it for them, or there business goes down the tubes.  While others suffer internally for years.

 

 

If your happy and you know it……

Clap your hands.  A simple but accruate lyric to what is often thought of a little ditty for children to sing.  It is a motivational song with a purpose.

Happiness is a state of mind.  Really it is that simple.  To paraprhase the song, if your happy others will know by the way you behave.  Happy behaviour is much more pleasant than any other kind.

Constantly Happy

Let’s check the assumptions.  If happiness is a state of mind, it is your mind and only yours so you could choose to be happy all the time.  Is this a realistic assumption?

Obviously external and environmental factors, for example being subjected to  physical torture or starvation make the choice more diificult, perhaps even impossible.

Staying Happy

Admittedly,  there are factors that can impinge on your ability to maintain a state of happiness.  However, given happiness is a state of mind, you do have a lot of influence.

Consider:

  • through personal meditation, self talk or just deep thought be very clear what makes you happy
  • plan your behaviour around seeking and attaining happiness
  • remember always, not matter what rhe circumstances, environmental or contextual nothing can make you unhappy, really only you can do that.

YOU ARE IN CONTROL, no matter how hard it may seem, you DECIDE, no one else.

Taking Action

Taking personal accountability is a theme that runs through my posts. I am a strong believer in this behavior.  I believe it helps me act consistently within the context of my values.

As well, it is a great underpinning to an optimistic viewpoint.  All of us see things we think are inappropriate, inefficient or for one reason or another just annoy us.

So fix it

Taking personal action to resolve the issue, rather than complaining or blaming others is a core concept of personal accountability.  It is all about you  ( another of my pet philosophies) so you need to take action.

I am not suggesting we personally execute whatever needs to be done to resolve the problem; your action could just be influential, structured to help create a specific outcome.  One that leads to resolution but is executed by others.

Feels Good!

In my experience taking personal control always feels better than complaining or blaming.  Additionally in working to resolve the issue you become part of the solution.

Behaving this way also helps you maintain an optimistic attitude.  As you act and things improve it becomes clear you can make things better.  You can help find solutions and solve problems.

Give it a try

So the next time you come across something that bothers you, pause and reflect on what you can do about it.  Focus on you, not them.  Others may be associated with the root cause, others may be at fault; forget that.  You can fix it, so do it.