This post is advice on how to consistently you are comfortable with yourself.

When you behave in a certain way,  the best approach to ensuring you have no regrets is to manage your behaviour in ways that ensure it was what you wanted to do.

In essence, this means acknowledging your behaviour choices as your own and yours alone.  For example, consider the statement “He made me mad so I behaved badly”.

No Regrets

You might regret the way you responded in anger and even beat yourself up with self talk.  The outcome is probably not positive from your perspective and blaming the other takes the edge off.

Blame, unfortunately,  does not solve the problem.  You feel bad the other participant feels bad.  It does not have to be this way.  That is not to say it’s inappropriate or inadvisable to follow your emotions or react in the moment.

The key is, before any reaction, ask yourself in the moment, “Is this how I want behave, is this right, is it fair, is it justifiable?”. When your answer is yes, whatever the resulting outcome  – negative or positive –  because you made a conscious  decision, all will be fine with you.

Accountability Matters

Consciously deciding what to do, how to behave means you accepted accountability in the moment.  When you have internal support of knowing the personal accountability was yours, it is highly unlikely you will have any regrets.