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Some cheese with that whine!

It seems that complaining about things is a common human trait.   In particular I am thinking about the workplace but interactions with family and friends can often migrate to whining about things, sometimes its just a natural way to sustain a discussion.

Why is this?

I am puzzled by this behavior personally,  as complaining can be a sustaining activity with negative results.  What I mean is, you can build your belief that something is bad or wrong by complaining about it.  Over time you can become righteous in your believe that you are right and whatever you are complaining about is wrong.

This often is based on an emotional filter of the facts and events and some times logic and reasoned thinking can be crowded out.  The best results do not often come from this approach (maybe never).  I do think it is a bit cathartic though and helps you feel better about yourself, but on the whole it does not address root causes or resolve issues.

This is why I am puzzled.  Would not the better natural behavior be to  do a careful analyses of situations and arrive at reasoned solution to address root causes of the problem.   Over time this would make the issues go away rather than enabling the continuing cycle of complaining, basically about the same thing.

Constant complaining becomes negative over time and once the initial rush of satisfaction about voicing how you really feel ends, depression, frustration and anxiety can become the predominant feelings.

Think about acting rather than just complaining

Next time you run into something that bugs you,  relax, think about it.  Begin the approach with consideration of what is the cause and thus what can be done to resolve it, then act.

The success formula

Building on yesterday’s post I had a few interesting conversations today about achieving fame and fortune.

Yesterday’s topic focused on a very talented musical artist named Rodriquez who had little to no recognition in his home country – America – but achieved great renown in South Africa and Australia, without really trying.

Whether the achievement is in the field of business (seeking the CEO job) ,  entertainment (stardom) , sports (winning consistently) or some other endeavor the key variables to success are probably some mix of the following:

  • Talent/ skill –  I think this should be the price of entry although I can think of some who are highly recognized but I personally would question their skill/talent.
  • Right place/ right time – Opportunity is not always of your making although seizing it probably is to some extent.  I am reminded of the story of musician Mick Taylor whom had a long and prosperous career including a stint as lead guitarist with the Rolling Stones.  His start in music is said to have been initiated at a John Mayall and the Blues Breakers concert Mick attended when he was sixteen.   Well known guitarist Eric Clapton did not show up and at the break Mick asked John Mayall if he could sit in for Eric.  He did and this led to a stint with John Mayall’s band and subsequently he replaced Brian Jones in the Rolling Stones (John’s recommendation helped with this).   Mick left the Rolling Stones after five years, he quit, they wanted him to stay.  If Mick had not seized the opportunity that presented itself at the Blues Breakers concert who knows if any of his subsequent fame would have been achieved.
  • Luck – For me this variable is out of your control.  Sometimes you win the lottery, sometimes you don’t.
  • Ambition – if you don’t want to succeed, you probably won’t  (actually I think this was the issue for the musician Rodriguez based on what I read about him).

And so the Witches brew is Set

With the right combination of talent, opportunity, luck and motivation the world is your oyster.

Searching for Sugar Man

Saw a terrific movie last week.  It was a documentary that won the Academy Award for best documentary (duh!) in 2013.

It’s About the Music

The movie “Searching for Sugar Man”  is about a folk musician/ singer songwriter named Rodriguez who released two albums in 1970 and 1972.   The story focuses on the fact the albums never sold in North America but were multi-platinum sellers in South Africa.  He was introduced to the South African market during the period of apartheid when the country was isolated under sanctions from the rest of the world.

For me, a bit of an aficionado of music from that time period, what blew me away was the quality of the music.  The lyrics and the melodies were extraordinary not just for one song but for every song on the movie soundtrack.  Why had I not heard this before now?

After watching the movie I acquired the two original albums – “Cold Fact” and “Coming from Reality” and was amazed to find the quality of the songs applied not only to the soundtrack but to every song on the albums.

What was missing?

The major question for me is what happened?  If I had been exposed to these albums on radio, record store or word of mouth I would have snapped them up, along I suspect with millions of others (like happened in South Africa).

I should note that although not  mentioned or explored in the movie Rodriguez albums sold five time platinum in Australia and he toured there in 1979,  The movie focused on the South African story mainly following the search by two South African fans in the early 1990’s for Rodriguez who was working construction in Detroit at the time.

Great movie, great music – recommended.

Reading the Newspaper

During my high school years I lived in North Vancouver, Canada.  My parents house was a ten minute walk to the school if I took the short- cut through the forest, ravine, across the creek and up a steep hill.  Walking on the roads was twenty minutes.

Although living in Vancouver, we could boast relatively mild weather year round it did rain a lot.  Snow and cold might have stopped me from using the short-cut to go to school, but rain I could handle.  The tree’s shielded it a lot anyway.   The big downside of constant on and off drizzle, light rain and even at times just air that felt you were walking through water it was so heavy with moisture, was the darkness.

The City of Vancouver (and it’s surrounding municipalities of North Vancouver, West Vancouver, Burnaby, New Westminster and Richmond) are well known for a high incidence of depression.  I don’t know this for a fact but having lived there for many years I would suspect the constant dull overcast contributes to this fact.

Focusing on the Story – what about Newspapers?

Living so close I went home for lunch everyday.  I would make myself, soup, canned stew, macaroni and occasionally a sandwich (back then I was not big on sandwiches although that’s what I eat for lunch most of the time these days).   After heating up my lunch I would sit at the kitchen table and read the Vancouver Province newspaper.  In those day’s Vancouver had two major daily’s – The Vancouver Sun (afternoon) and the Vancouver Province (morning).   Surprise (and I mean shocking surprise) – they are both still publishing albeit under the same owner.

I was in Vancouver recently and saw a newspaper box with the Province and was taken back to my high school days when I read the paper religiously every day for years.

What struck me most was the fact that although I still read a daily paper every day (the global and mail)  it’s now exclusively the electronic edition.  I have not held a broadsheet in my hands for years (Nexus tablet for me) and have no real desire to do so – except nostalgic reasons such as those triggered by my recent trip.

The shocking part I referred to above,  is the fact that in this day of frequent newspaper bankruptcies and consolidations these two daily papers survive.

 

Don’t Tell Me What to Do!

Have you every noticed how most of the time you use the phrase “Can I give you some advice”, immediately the target of your advice raises their shields.

Over the years I have come to learn people actually like and appreciate advise, as long as it is hidden in some subterfuge.   It has been my experience most people don’t like to be told what to do, directly.  Indirectly seems to work okay.   I wonder is this is some standard genetic disposition or a built in behavior, something like the well known fight or flight.

Sort of like, you here the words ” Can you do it this way?” and wham the defensive reaction kicks in.

How Can We Help?

Using questions is a great way to pass on suggestions or even direction.  Something like ” Have you thought about using the break to stop the car before we hit the guy in front of us?

Just kidding , this could be a good use of a question but sarcasm usually does not work well.  This example, exaggerated as it is, does give the idea, gently create the seed of an idea using an indirect approach.

My own experience is the direct approach rarely works and even if the target of your friendly advice appears receptive, trust me they are not.  It’s sort of built in human behavior and like the fight or flight reaction often we cannot even control it if we wanted to.

So what do you think?

Is this a technique worth trying?  Why not give it a whirl next time you are trying to be helpful.  You could be surprised by the results.

Fostering Initiative

I had an interesting discussion today.  In a work situation, who is accountable to ensure you have enough work?  Is it you, or your boss?   In my view it is you.  That being said though, there is a balance between leadership, environment and you that needs to be optimal to encourage you to take the initiative when it is needed.

Personal Initiative

Culture and leadership practices together with your own personal ethic drive how much initiative you demonstrate.  If you have a poor work ethic and the organizational culture and leadership don’t clearly support an expectation of high personal initiative it’s not unlikely to see employees taking longer breaks,  personal phone calls, playing games and other distractions at their desk.

Over the years I have encountered too many scenarios where the work environment, lack of active leadership and low levels of personal work ethic led to inefficient operations.

What are some ways to address these situations?

Leadership – fostering a strong work ethic through example, coupled with clear communication of expectations around personal initiative and using both reward and consequence actions to re-enforce the organizations basic cultural framework are the key actions leaders can undertake to create a healthy and efficiently operating work environment

Personal Work Ethic – this is largely a learned behavior.  Leading by example is key to building a strong work ethic throughout the organization.  This is not just leading by designated managers/leaders,  but everyone can be an example for everyone else.  Strong work ethics from one individual can influence the behaviors and actions of ten others (or even more).   Clearly communication expectations and the appropriate level of reinforcement through both reward and consequence is key.

You can see it is critical to couple leadership behaviors with personal work ethic behavior to achieve strong and efficient operations.

In combination, lack of leadership and poor work ethic rarely improve and this perfect storm can lead to frustration by all stakeholders – leaders, workers and other impacted stakeholders like end customers, associated organization units and so on.

Watching children grow

With the onset of social media sharing pictures of your children as they grow up has never been easier.  Photo’s are great ways to capture a moment in time.  Typically as I grew up photo’s were more a historic record, a way to reminisce fondly on the past or even for others to remember you on death.

Tracking our lives

Today with tools like Facebook, Instagram and myriad of other social media applications we can share our happiness (and sad moments) instantly with thousands, even millions of others.   Photo’s are easy to take and in the digital world relatively disposable.  You can take hundreds of shots, pick the best and delete the others – all just in minutes.  Not so with film cameras.

For me, the biggest impact of this change in the way pictures are both taken and viewed relative to children moving through the various phases of their lives – baby, toddler, adolescent and so on.   My wife and I feel a part of the joy as we see our grandchild grow up in pictures and videos, almost daily.

Of course, being at arms length is great most of the time, but there is no substitution for real face-to-face time and we do have that opportunity as well although far less frequently (phew!).

Spread the News

The ease which you can memorialize an event and share it not only provides the opportunity to share joys and sorrows with others, but it’s a great way to spread the news – marriages, births, deaths.

I am not a huge selfie fan nor addicted to social media (twitter, instagram, facebook) but I certainly recognize the benefits.

Lucky

As remembrance day approaches I recall the poem I wrote in grade twelve.  It was published in the school newspaper and then again in the school annual for that year.  Remember this was the early seventies when I wrote this (probably still resonates today though)

The Poem

Lucky

Oh aren’t we lucky

Living as we do

Between the second world war to end wars

And the coming third world war

Which will!

Remembrance day is not directly about war, but remembering those who fought in wars .  I cannot argue this is important and worthwhile.  I wonder though why we need to fight wars at all.

Wars are basically people killing people both purposely and as effectively as they can.  Human history is littered with aimless conflicts.  I say aimless because I struggle with associating any real value with war.   Soldiers are a key component of these conflicts, no soldiers, no wars.

Peacekeepers

One key problem is if one side has soldiers who can take control by force and the other side has no protection, they will probably lose all (unless they have Samson to defend them).  So, we need armies and soldiers to keep the peace.   Unfortunately, this practice in itself sustains the ability to wage war.

What if there were no conflicts.  What if life was not only considered sacred but the taking of others life unthinkable/ impossible to do.

This is a utopia and in the words of John Lennon something we can “Imagine”.  If we can imagine it we should be able to make it happen.  Probably much easier to dream than make a reality but not impossible.

Remembrance

So while I honor those who have fought, who have sacrificed much, in defense of a cause.   I wonder though “why can’t we all just be friends”.   This is another reference to a song by the ironically named pop rock group “War”.

Killing Flies

My office has an infestation of black flies.  Apparently the fly’s seek warmer environments as the weather gets cold.  This includes things like crevices of trees and other places that will provide some protection from the elements, like our warm leaky building.

Older buildings leak heat and this attracts the flies.  If your building is near open fields or parks where they breed in warmer weather and your building is not well sealed, as could be the case for many buildings on a historic university campus ( lots of open fields and areas fly’s like to breed as well), you could be at risk of an infestation.

What to do?

Apparently one good alternative is to fumigate in the fall (i.e., around now).  This will clear out the place and given there are not many new fly’s hatching outside in this weather, the problem is put off until next fall when the new batch of spring and summer fly’s seek warmth and the cycle starts all over.

Of course, you could upgrade the buildings envelope to improve it’s seal against the outside coming in.  This would be an environmentally sound approach as well reducing the amount of energy required to heat and cool the buildings interior.  Probably more environmentally sound than pesticide as well.

Oh Pesticide

One fine colleague pointed out that there are no known or documented cases of disease transmission by black fly’s while pesticides probably are not good for you.

I guess if you don’t mind having black fly’s wander on your sandwich at lunch time or sit on the rim of your coffee cup they could be tolerated.  I mean you probably won’t get sick, I find it a bit unappetizing though and that cup of coffee, well – down the sink.

So if I weigh pesticides versus tolerating these little black pests I do lean toward pesticide.  My preferred solution though would be better installation of the building.  This would reduce heat leakage which attracts the fly’s as well as reducing their entry points to the building.

 

Contemplative can be a noun.

At a religious service I attended the other day, I was surprised to hear the word contemplative used used as a noun.  This was new to me,  I had thought this term to be exclusively an adjective.

On checking it out I found several references to use as a noun, referring to someone who has dedicated themselves to religious contemplation ( there seemed to be some correlation with Christianity but this was not absolute) .

So a contemplative (noun) practices a specific type of contemplation (the adjective), that is,  thinking quietly and seriously about religious matters.

Thoughtful, long consideration or observation

Although there are Roman catholic orders specifically made up of contemplatives,  focused on spiritual contemplation related to god, the act of profound thinking about something is in itself contemplative.

Recognizing Spirituality

The service that got me contemplating about contemplatives (noun) was led by a Roman Catholic priest and the his references were made about an individual who did not believe in Catholicism, as an organized religion put a great deal of thought and consideration into religious practices and spirituality.

Religious/ spiritual contemplation, how and what it is turns out to be an enormous topic, with a massive amount of reading material made up of on-line, articles, books, manuscripts and on and on.

Hearing the word used as a noun in reference to a spiritual individual who was a deep thinker (but not part of an organized practice in any way) started my investigation of this topic.

It is quite fascinating and I wanted to share with my readership.  You may be interested in doing some research on your own  – maybe even become a contemplative.