Many times through out our lives we will experience conflict. At times our exchange of information with others will appear adversarial.
We may be criticized or perceive others behaviour to be rude or unfriendly. Often in these cases we assign fault to the others and use this determination to justify our own righteous behaviour.
Solution Based Action
Regardless of the cause, which usually involves every one to some extent, overcoming unpleasant situations is most easily done by avoiding blame and focusing on behaviours that will resolve the conflict in a way that everyone wins.
When we are wronged or at least believe we have been wronged it is relatively easy to focus on ourselves and our needs We are in the right and dam it others need to know they have wronged us.
This approach results in us acting in ways that do not defuse conflict but rather result in escalation. Although not our intention we become a contributor to the problem. And through our actions the problem becomes worse.
Get over it
Perhaps you are not at fault, perhaps you have been mistreated by others. Reacting to their rudeness or inappropriate actions in a retaliatory way might be good for you but it is unlikely to lead to a resolution.
Most likely your actions lead to a response which will just make the situation worse. Accepting that shit happens, focusing on ways to work with others to achieve a state of happiness for everyone is a far more logical approach.
Work Together
Is it you, is it me, who cares. Conflict is best resolved through joint actions. Lashing out in spite might give you a brief satisfaction but it will not be sustainable.
