Inclusion

If you are leading an activity (e.g., a meeting, game, social event, etc) one of the tasks is determining who the stakeholders are andif they should be included.

Stakeholders are those all those who havean interest or concern in something.  Identifying stakeholders is itself a bit of an artand certainly contains a subjective component.

Selection

Inclusion can be via direct participation (e.g., a player) or just informative (e.g., reviewing meeting minutes.  Whatever the role will be, if they are a stakeholder they should be considered.

To determine who you are going to involve in the activity the first step is identifying the stakeholder groups.  That is those that are directly impacted, indirectly and people who might be impacted.

Sometimes determining who to select for what roles from the group of stakeholders requires collaboration.  It is not neccessarily something to take on yourself completely, advise and consultation can behelpful, even a critical necessity.

Avoid Bias

The best results are obtained when building a team or group to particiapte in an activity when your unconscious bias is well controlled.  Using conscious analysis to support your decisions increases the probabilty the right stakeholders are selected.

Things to consider, but none are absolutes:

  • does the person want to participare
  • will the chances of achieving the objective be enhanced by their participation?
  • will any of the other stakeholders or participants object?
  • is using this person cost effective?

Serious Impact

Selecting the right people to be included is neither a trivial exercise nor one to be taken lightly.  Ultimately the results will depend on it.

Decision Analysis and Resolution

Reaching a conclusion or resolution to an outstanding question or issue appears to be a straightforward process. Basically determine the options, and select the one with the best value.

Unfortunately maintaining objectivity, particularly if input is sought from a number of stakeholders, is not always that simple. Opinions and subjective assessment creep in.

Follow a Process

The purpose of a formal decision analysis and resolution process is to enable analysis of possible decisions using a formal evaluation process that evaluates identified alternatives against established criteria.

This practice promotes objectivity over subjective assessment.  Also by definition it must include tracking how the decision evolved. This allows for post decision improvements..

That is, if something unexpected or undesirable becomes apparent after the recommended solutuion is implemented, the analysis process can be backtracked and improved for future decisions.

This continuous improvement aspect of the process is a critical underpinning of the overall practice.  Being able to continuously improve the quality of solutions, over time, has obvious benefits.

Justification

Documenting why a choice was made also motivates all involved to be more careful in their judgement.  After all, post decision, a look back is possible and logic flaws could be embarrassing for those that were responsible.

This highlights the need for strong and solid justification of the solutions elected.  Impacted stakeholders often take more care with their input.

Use as Needed

While a formal decison analysis practice will improve quality of choices over time, following well defined steps can sometimes be more effort than it is worth. 

Choose critical decisions with far reaching impacts when following a formal practice.  For day to day, do this – do that decisions it often is not practical, nor necessary to follow a full blown process.

 

 

 

Making it up

When in doubt you can always create a story, excuse or pure invention. This can be to decieve others or it could just be a clever marketing device.

When creating a story (i.e., making it up) it is important to do no harm. Inadvertently libelling, insulting or motivating an action not in someones best interest are to be avoided.

Of course marketing is intended to elicit positive action, sales, recognition, or support and it can be a bit subjective whether this is beneficial to others.

Humor

Keeping it light while sending a message (e.g., an obvious exaggeration or story) can often be an effective technique . In this way the exaggerated or often made up point can be useful in highlighting a hidden truth.

Satire is an example of this technique. The danger lies in the level of acceptance of the veracity of the story. If believed, when not intended as anything more than a philosophical message, harm could ensue.

Truth and Accuracy

Reputations are made and lost on the percieved level of trust granted them by others. Use of exaggeration and story telling can be an effective communication technique but overuse or misuse can erode the level of trust others have for you.

It is imperative a careful balance be exercised between the use of veracity and making it up. Each method has pros and cons and ca n be useful communication techniques but to avoid being misspercieved one must be cautious in how the technique is used.

Oh Behave

To be a living human being means every moment involves some action. This may be passive (e.g., breathing) or active (e.g., speaking to someone) or all points between.

The point is that we are always behaving, that is acting in response to a particular situation or stimulus. Our behavior defines us. How your behavior is interpreted in the eyes of others is key to who you are.

Self Awareness

The way you view your own behavior, your motivation and rationale for what you do, is a key to self actualization but understanding how others perceive your actions is also critical.

For me, being self aware encompasses the ability to adapt your behavior for maximum personal pleasure within the context of other peoples views of your actions.

Although it may sound simple, behaving within the context “it’s all about me” while giving full credence to not impinging on the needs of others is actually a very difficult and complex activity.

Execution

The conundrum is being true to yourself while adhering to the views of others; views which can often be diametrically opposed to your own.

The ability to behave with a goal to make both yourself and everyone else happy – pleasure to all – is the underpinning of success. Our heroes and those we admire most can typically be (though not exclusively) both self centered and philanthropic (they love all people).

Self awareness starts with consciously paying attention to both how you are behaving at any given moment and how others are reacting to it. This is the easy part.

Deciding how to behave in a way that does not compromise your personality (your go to behaviors) while meeting the needs of others, now that is the tricky part.

Persistence

Sometimes it is difficult to achieve your goals. Firm or obstinate continuance of your efforts, in spite of the difficulty or opposition being experienced may be in order.

Persistence can be an admirable trait as long as it is well thought out. Persistence for it’s own sake could be characterized as stubbornness.

That is, having or showing dogged determination not to change one’s attitude or position on something although there may be good reason to do so, does not make sense (i.e., stubbornness should be avoided).

Achievement

Being persistent can be a key underpinning of many great successes, however, knowing when to quit is critical. The proverbial banging your head against a concrete wall in frustration is typically not a useful approach.

The keys to the effective practice of persistence are:

  • Achievement of the goal is feasible (it can be done within the constraints you are under)
  • The value equation is positive, that is the outcomes merit the expenditure of persistent effort that will be required.
  • The application of common sense, i.e., stopping based on changing circumstances or revising approach

Determination

One facet of persistence is the exercise of determination. Demonstrating a firmness of purpose based on logical analysis is key to persistence.

Most importantly this is not blind determination at all costs. To be most effective it should be apparent the motivation underlying the desire to achieve is well reasoned.

Being determined does not equate to never giving up but rather not giving up if that is appropriate based on the circumstances. Showing determination when success is unlikely is most likely a waste of effort.

Managing Accountability

For most of us our accountabilty increases with age. As a youth we usually have not yet accumulated ownership of things that need to be maintained (e.g., house, offspring, steady income). We are often considered, carefree.

We can look skyward for answers, there is no urgency for immediate action and well, the sky is the limit. As our accountabilities grow, so do our limitations.

Building your Accountability Base

Living includes ongoing changes, every advancement in time creates a change in space. It is a never ending continuum (I know this sentence includes a redundant element but it sounds good).

As we progress through our lives activities (both those we participate or just observe) the changes that result often add to our growing list of accountabilities.

Though it may sometimes seem these are thrust on us unwilling, often we are both the originator and ultimately a willing participant.

We may think we choose actions simply to conform to societal expectations ( e.g., keep up with the neighbours) but by and by most things we take on are by choice.

Staying Underwhelmed

As you are making life decisions, (e,g, career, offspring, leisure activites) it behooves you, for ongoing happiness, to make sure you do not become overwhelmed.

The carefree days of your youth can extend across your whole life as long as you maintain the balance between capabilities and responsibility. As time progresses your capabilities increase and so therefore can your accountabilities.

The challenge arises when you allow yourselves to be saddeled with more than you are capable of managing. The reponsibility for allowing this imbalance to occur is solely your own.