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Courage

Showing strength in the face of pain or grief or taking action that is frightening or might undermine your self esteem requires courage.   Courage does not mean the absence of fear but rather ability to manage yourself appropriately when scared.

The practice of courage can be dramatic and inspirational or it could just be relatively mundane.  Behaving with integrity often requires courage, that is doing the right thing even if it is hard to do so.

Anxiety

Circumstances do not lead us to worry.  When we give way to anxiety or feel unease it is because we chose to allow ourselves to dwell on difficulty or troubles not about what is going on around us.

Exercising courage often simply means you focus on what really matters, that is your personal goals.  Dwelling what might be or what scares us, which can be very real things, detracts from our ability to be courageous.

It’s about you

Acting courageously may result in the admiration of others, even being classified as a hero.  This should not be a motivation for behaving with courage.

Being tenacious feeds your self esteem, that is behaving according to your personal values even in the face of potential adversity strengthens your inner peace.  Ultimately you feel better about yourself.

The worst impact of succumbing to a bully is not immediate or imminent pain they may inflict but the lingering impacts on your self worth.

Standing by your personal convictions may cause you immediate pain and suffering.  However, feeling good about yourself is   something that will last through the long term, ongoing mental stability will far outweigh passing periods of physical pain.

Resolve not Fix

There is a subtle difference between resolving an issue and fixing a problem.  If the issue has a solution, in essence it is settled.  That particular issue is finished.

On the other hand, the problem from which the issue arose is probably not solved.  In this case it is highly likely similar issues stemming from the base problem will contine to arise.

Applying Common Sense

Given fixing the problem will address reoccurrence, it clearly reduces work, re-work and associated costs and reputational impacts.

So, when you are presented with an issue, investigating to determine the problem (aka cause of the issue ) and then fixing it seems to be more logical than fixing related issues ad infinitum.

If it was so Easy

Typically most of us focus on the issue.  The most common question that springs to our mind is, “What is wrong? and How can I resolve it?”, not “Why is this happening?”.

There is of course a sense of urgency and it often seems the value of determining why an issue occured doesn’t outweigh the value of putting the issue to bed quickly.

If the issue reoccurs, (or a similar issue) odds are you won’t even recognize the relationship because you have not associated cause.

The sad part is just shifting the question from how to solve the issue, point in time, to how to fix it permanently is not difficult.  It is however not intuitive so often gets by passed.