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Life Events – Changes

In March 2020 the world population was subject to a life-changing event in the form of a global pandemic.  The current advanced state of communications technology-enabled rapid response in virtually every corner of the globe.

 What began as an adventure to avoid illness has become a way of life, albeit with limited success relative to avoiding illness.  Although the first peak of infection was addressed as more people sought to return to more normal day to day routine, the peak returned.

What Next?

The drastic steps to lock down our interaction with others did work but at a significant cost to both our economies and quality of life. The gradual return to commercial activity worldwide has been accompanied by a commensurate rise in the number of viral cases.

Another severe lock-down on travel, restaurants, and retail shopping will likely be another shock for a stuttering economy.   On the good news, front looms the upcoming U.S. election with hoped for the ejection of the current abysmal leadership.

A Way of Life

The search for a vaccine and even better a cure is ongoing and could (optimistically speaking) start to change the way we interact with each other as early as the spring of 2021.

Even then though, I believe it is likely many of the freedoms and little pleasures we once took for granted will continue to be curtailed for some time, perhaps another six months.

Social gatherings, travel, and the workplace are going to be impacted by sometimes as returning to less stringent public health practices and normal transaction volumes is probably not going to occur overnight.

Building Resilience

At various times in our lives, virtually everyone goes through a process of adapting in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats, and other significant sources of stress.

Situations that require the practice of resilience as a major part of perseverance through the unsettling change are unavoidable.  Our ability to adapt and move to the other side has a natural and learned component and strengthening this skill enables us to move on.

Get Through It

While it is important to get past a change without adverse effects on our health (mental or physical) this is not a process to be rushed nor ignored.

Just hoping it will resolve itself with time often leads to the deeper internal stress which festers.  Likewise rushing to get it over with does not address the root cause and again might not really resolve problems.

We need to move through the change leveraging planning, communication, and problem-solving skills to help us overcome the stressful and adverse impacts.

Focus on Opportunity

Our innate resilience can be a counter to change resistance.  However, it is important to bolster your level of resilience by behaving in ways that enhance the change experience.

Ask questions, seek clarifications, speak out clearly (but calmly) about how you feel.  Sharing can elicit helpful feedback from others which can guide you in ways to help yourself.

Plan how you will behave rather than react.  This gives you time to think through scenarios and is more likely to result in positive responses from others, as opposed to them experiencing explosive behavior on your part.

Studies have shown we can enhance and grow our resilience skills.  Change is inevitable, strong resilience will be needed from time to time and you will thank yourself for being ready.

Don’t Give Up

Gentle persistence can be a very effective practice when what you seek is just out of reach, carry on and you can succeed.  That is, the practice of firm continuance in a course of action in spite of difficulty or opposition.

There is a fine line between persistence and being stubborn or obstinate.   Hence the modifier, gentle persistence.  There can be great value continuing until you succeed or even just until it is clear you will never succeed.

Personal Satisfaction

Whether you achieve what you wanted knowing that you were fully committed  and everything you possibly was done, is worth more than getting the object of your desire.

Self confidence is not founded not on accomplishments themselves but rather the personal  belief you can and will do what is needed.  Simply put you will try and continue to do so until their is no reason to continue.

Not Failure

Having undertaken all possible approaches yet still not reaching the desired objective does not constitute failure.   Failure is always associated with giving up before you are done.

This is not intended to imply it is okay not to attain your goals.  Rather it is not okay to not make every reasonable effort and continue until you succeed.  Perhaps not surprisingly this actually  results in attaining what you seek or close to it most cases.

Feeling Good

Most importantly knowing you did not give up always leaves you with a feeling of satisfaction around a task well done.  After all you did everything you could.