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Enjoy the Moment

Relative to the age of the universe, as best we can guess it, our earthly human lives are but a brief moment in time.  We can speculate what happens after this life but it is not definitively known.

During our short lives, we have the opportunity to experience joy and pleasure.   Of course, we can also experience pain and unhappiness and every range of emotion in-between.

Control

What we experience is not totally in our control.  Events, the activities and interventions of others and perhaps extra-sensory factors are not always fully in our control.

How we react to the things going on around us, what we feel can be controlled by us consciously albeit sometimes requiring quite a bit of effort.

Our sub-conscious can take over sometimes without us even realizing it.  Hence negative emotions and feelings can arise within us before we are able to take control and quench them.

Blind Happiness and Joy

I firmly believe how I feel at any point in time is up to me and fully my choice however reality does intrude and I do find this is not always the case.

Or perhaps it is and I choose (even to a largely sub-conscious extent) to worry, be fearful, sad and unhappy on occassion.   Given the negative context of these feelings though, I wonder why I would ever choose this route (but maybe that is part of life).

I wonder if joy, pleasure, and happiness can be continual and uninterrupted if I choose to make it so.  My experience seems to lead to the conclusion this is not the case.

That being said, taking control of how I feel and channeling my thoughts and behavior to the positive is always worth the effort although sometimes it is not always doable.

Translating the Vision

I was listening to an interview with Tom Petty (deceased classic rocker from the Heartbreakers and the Traveling Willburys) when something very insightful caught my attention.

In repsonse to a question about song writing Tom noted he always had two versions, the one he visualized in his head and the written notes and lyrics on paper.

And to quote him “they were very different”.

Delivering what you Feel

Typically visions have an emtional foundation .  This applies whether you are visualizing a song, story, innovative product or service and so on.  The challenge is to use tactical methods to recreate the feeling you see in your vision.

Exceptional results are more likely achieved when the constraints of tactical delivery don’t restrict the emotional impact.  Translating what you see in your head to reality is not a trivial task but successfully doing so can be the difference between good, great and exceptional.

Visions

Tactical imperitives, time and cost for example, are real considerations and if you are to achieve your vision these constraints need to be both recognized and overcome.

However, to achieve your goal the key is not to compromise your vison but rather find a path that lets you deliver what you feel.   The intangible aspects of your vision are often the key differentiators and should not be overlooked.

Are you feelin Alright!

How you feel is part of a thought process.  This process is centric to YOUR brain.   The brain is not autonomous for most things (exceptions are basic things like normal  breathing).  In fact, the behaviours and feelings derived from  the data you receive from your brain are yours to control and yours alone.

The brain does not action, it provides data which you use to decide and implement action.  Therefore, logically, you will never feel bad.  Why would anyone decide to feel bad.

The operative descriptor here is “bad”.  By definition the things described as bad are negative.  Negative is typically not a desired state of being.

People do feel bad

The simpliest explanation for choosing negative feelings and the associated depressed and sad behavior is based on the analysis of the data.

You parsed the data provided by your brain and decided the most appropriate internal response was to feel bad.

Personally I wonder what the value equation is.  The data could be a death of a close friend or relative, loss of something you hold dear and a thousand other things as simple as dark cold days.

My own approach is to feel good, regardless.  Why not?  In truth, up to the point of my own death, anything but feeling good, upbeat and happy seems pointless.

I choose how to feel, act and behave and logic dictates sad unhappy feelings make little sense.  Maybe I am part Vulcan.

Optimism

Optimism describes an attitude.  When you feel hopefulness and confidence about the future, your perspective is said to be optimistic.  Is this a sustainable perspective?

Personal attitude is yours to control.  Optimism can be a fabulous way to approach each day, why not.  By it very nature optimism is positive and associated with good feelings.

Approaching each day feeling good is not a bad thing.  Consistent and persisent optimism is positive so why not adopt this a a permanent attitude.?

Trouble on the horizon

When hiking you run into a bear.  Your optimistic attitude leads you not to react, after all everything will work out.  Although an exaggerated example, there probably are cases where optimisum should be temporarily suspended.

Proactively worrying or predicting negative attitudes (pessimism) is probably not a good replacement for an optimistic attitude but realistically recognizing  the potential for bad results is probably not a bad thing.

Attitude Drives Outcomes

Whatever your underlying perspective, for example positive, negative, worried or optimistic; the way you behave is directly impacted.

If you are feeling good your eaction is typically more positive than if you are worried or fearful.  This is a good argument to strive for an optimistic viewpoint as your go to attitude.

Believe and Succeed

Athletes and sale people are well familiar that visualizing and believing in sucess to come can be a significant driver of results.  So don’t just be hopeful but believe it will be good.

You can get what you wish for.

Feeling Good

Most people engage in a regular activity whether it is paid employment, charitable work or just a participation in a hobby or an association.

For me this very broad calassification could be playing golf regularly, traveling or going to work at a physical or mental job.  What I am refering to is how you spend the bulk of your time.

How do you Feel?

When you think about your prime activity,  the thing you spend the majority of your time doing, does it elicit positive thoughts?  Just to clarify,  you might spend a significant part of your days sleeping (maybe even a thirds) this question is not about that.

This is not about frustrating moments in a point in time but the overall feeling you get when thinking about the way you spend most of your time.

If what you do is not making you happy overall you should consider a change.  Broadly this will be one of three things (these are generic descriptions)

  • Pick another activity, that is stop your current one (i.e., quit your job, swim instead of golf and so on).
  • Change the way you feel about the activity.  Simply put happiness is an internal feeling you own, check out why you think the way you do and change your mind.
  • Change the things that are bothering you (e.g., take golf lessons so you get lower scores, ask your boss to help solve the things bothering you, manoeuvre things so the obsticles are removed.

What ever you choose to do, do something.  Don’t worry, be happy.