Sometimes we are angry or irritated. This can be a mild form of annoyance to the more extreme case where a person could be described as being “fit to be tied”
Historically this expression relates to constraining a bull so that it can be handles. Bulls are known for expressing their annoyance, or perhaps it could be called anger, in very physical ways thus the need for constraint.
Keep Control
When you are feeling annoyed this is often readily reflected in your behaviour and can result in less than optimal outcomes. In these situations allowing our annoyance (although perhaps very valid for us to be annoyed), causes us to act more based on emotion.
Our feelings are real to us and a very important aspect of both our individuality and overall humanity however it can cloud our logical thinking processes leading to emotional satisfying but truly illogical behaviour.
Consider Outcomes
The best approach to using your annoyance in a positive way is to take the time to consider outcomes. Acting precipitously based on what are powerful feelings can make you feel good in the moment, but the key question is “Will you regret it.”
I occasionally wonder the value of strong emotions as they can result in actions we question afterwards and perhaps even really regret.
However, there is real value in our ability to portray emotion for others to understand how we feel but this is best done in a way that does not lead to an adverse response. Emoting works best when used in a practical way.
So next time you are annoyed consider the best way to use those feeling to achieve your goals and resolve whatever is annoying you in the first place.
