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Even the best made plans …….

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Sometime things just do not work out.  Your expectations might not be met or others make mistakes which results in additional effort on your part.

Even when you carefully analyze the requirements, follow any instructions provided to you and clearly communicate your needs and expectations something might not happen the way you planned for it to.

Overcoming Frustration

I find bureaucracy is a great driver of situations where re-work is needed.  The issue is small discrepancies which really have little impact on the outcomes can be triggers for the pompous bureaucrat to exercise their authority. simply because they can.

Recognizing frustrating moments can and will occur regularly is important in managing your way through them.  Personally I learned long ago that most often acquiescence and submissions works best toward ultimate achievement of your goal.

Of course this is not really my go to behavior but rather a learned one based on experience.   The pain caused by being forthright about how you feel (e.g., saying things like seriously this is your mistake) just is not worth it.

Win Win

After enmeshing myself in greater difficulty by seeking even demanding others be reasonable, an approach that might make me feel good, I often found it does not necessarily result in getting what I need.

By accepting things do not always go as expected no matter how well you have planned your actions, I find the best approach is to just go with the flow.

I have come to realize overcoming frustration by succeeding is often the best way to go.   Why fight it, ultimately you win and those responsible for the difficult process get what they want so I guess it is a win win, not that the others deserve it.

Random thoughts – keeping you on your toes

Get Over It

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Interacting with other people can lead to feelings of being upset or annoyed.  This can often stem from our own inability to change or influence change to achieve something.

When we need to get things done through others because we are either not capable or don’t have the access we need to do it ourselves, frustration will rear its ugly head.

Taming Frustration

Anxiety, stress, and anger are probably the most prominent emotions associated with frustration.  We find ourselves prevented from making progress and achieving success simply because others are not doing what we want.

This is one of the perks of having power, it is generally easier to influence others to do what you desire.  Even though they may not be in accord with your direction, through physical or organizational power you can drive to your goal, usually without frustration.

Having power is not always an option and being able to finesse what you need is a skill that can save you a lot of frustrating moments.   Getting things done through others is most effective when they want to do it, not because they must.

Core Tenants of Influencing

Understanding others’ wants and desires is the first step toward your goal.  What motivates them?  What are the kinds of things that will drive them to want to behave in a way that will satisfy your desires?

Listening carefully, observing, perhaps conducting some historical research will help you answer these questions.   Your approach to influencing is best founded on what others want, need, and believe.

It is that simple.