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Be Calm

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The time you spend with your thoughts can be refreshing and invigorating.  Thinking is a foundation of creativity.  However, anxiety and overthinking also begin with thought.

Our thoughts can take over and be in control.  Typically when negative feelings are generated during moments of focused thinking it is not because we desire to be become anxious, depressed, fearful or something similarly negative.

Be in Control

Putting science fiction aside, today outside of extreme cases (e.g. brainwashing, torture, hypnotism) we are solely in control of our minds.

The subjects we focus our thinking on may arise from our sub-conscious but always we have the ability to take control and decide where these conversations with ourselves will lead.

Why Worry?

Giving way to anxiety or unease by allowing one’s mind to dwell on difficulty or troubles is a choice.  What do we achieve by making the decision to worry about something?

Worry leads to feeling troubled or concerned and typically creates stress together with the associated physical reactions (e.g., high blood pressure, reduced ability to focus, tiredness).

There is little positive value resulting from being worried about things.  We our in control of our own thoughts so choosing to be calm enables us to avoid the negative results of being worried.

It is a Choice!

For each of us there are different ways to manage our thoughts, take ownership and be in control.  By taking control of our minds we determine what the outcomes of our thinking will be, that is choosing to be calm whatever the scenario.

The key point is not which technique you select to avoid worry and become anxious but rather recognizing it is your choice to do so and choosing wisely.

Random thoughts – keeping you on your toes

Peace of Mind

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Living in a state of anxiety and uncertainty over actual or potential problems is a personal choice.  We can choose to give way to anxiety or unease and allow ourselves to dwell on difficulty or troubles.

Or not.

I do not intend to advocate the ostrich approach, that is choosing to hide your head in the sand (avoid reality) and a staying away from worry, however, allowing yourself to be anxious or worried when there is nothing you can do about it seems to me to be just a way to propagate unpleasant feelings unnecessarily.

Why Worry

Emotions that typically do not raise your level of pleasure (for most of us) exist for a purpose.  Things like fear, anxiety, and worry do have value but we often allow ourselves to experience these emotions when it really serves no purpose.

This raises the question, should I worry about something and if not then why am I?  Fair question.  I think the answer lies in the level of control and level of impact.

Consider – Why do I care?

The value worry brings is the resulting actions it prompts you to take.  Worrying continuously without addressing the root cause is both painful and relatively useless practice.

Most importantly don’t ignore your worry, do something about it, this might just be acceptance.  The key factor here is determining if you can do something about it, if not, accept and move on.

For example, recent budget cuts by the provincial government where I live are resulting in job losses.  Can I stop it, probably not?  Can I prepare for the eventuality, of course, there are many things I can do.

So I don’t worry, I just act.