Sometimes written and verbal communications can include two unsettling properties.  They could appear to be ponderous or pretentious.

Unfortunately, the ultimate objective of the communication might be of value but the subjective perspective of the listener/reader that it is solemn, dull and laborious quickly leads to an attention deficit and most likely the message is lost.

Fake packaging

Another way to ensure your message is blocked occurs when you attempt to impress by affecting greater importance, talent, culture, etc., than you actually possess.

When you are perceived as ponderous or pretentious, or even both, the ability to impact and influence others is greatly diminished.  You might believe you are lively and believable but if others don’t, it is game over.

Keeping it Real and Sharp

Others judgements are very impactful on your ability to achieve.  Your personal enjoyment and pleasure cannot always be derived  solo, the ability to positively interacting with others is needed to complete your pleasure dome.

This requires you to pay attention and use other peoples verbal and non- verbal queues to determine how they are perceiving your input.

It is usually not that hard to determine if your message is being lost.  Consider the cause, your behaviour, and make a change.  Check through probing questions why you are being perceived negatively.

Ponderous behaviours are typically repetitive, slow and boring.  Pretentiousness is usually all about attitude.  Loose the better than you intonation and body language.

Being viewed as ponderous, pretentious or both does you no favours.  Make the change..