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It could be worse

I wonder why many people were willing to accept the sad and harsh context of their lives.  This is highlighted for me when considering history of what we often classify as first world countries.

Many of these nations (e.g., England, France, Japan) had basically only two classes (upper and lower classes).  This meant a few (the upper class) were able to leverage the efforts of the majority (the lower class) to live in comfort and luxury.

Peasant class

Recently watching some British historical dramas (via streaming of course) got me wondering why for example poor servants, farmers and manual workers accepted their lower social status.

I wonder if the “it could be worse” mentality had much to do with it.  Perhaps those nobles and members of the royal classes provided basic subsistence to the working classes so they would not rebel.

Coupled with this were situations where the the very unfortunate could be used as examples of how a person could suffer if they did not accept their position in life and carry on.  That is help them realize things could be worse.

Rise of the middle class

As North America became colonized the native inhabitants were often placed in the lower class roles while the immigrants (many arriving with lower class backgrounds) took the opportunity to overcome the “could be worse stigma” and created a middle class.

That is they freed themselves in the new world from the masters that wanted them to stay in their places.

At this time the creation of the middle class became a relatively world wide phenomena as the Americas became more populated by immigrants the lower classes in the “old” countries began also to break out the the prison’s created for them by the upper classes.

Ultimately today the class structures still exist but for many middle and upper middle classes provide opportunities to think more in terms of the possible than be constrained by the “good enough”.

Social Constraints

There are things within our societies that limit us from doing what we want.  These social norms are sometimes carved in stone, that is legally bindings with penalties for contravention.

The more challenging social norms are value based and sometimes our perceptions of right and wrong do not map to those of others, leading to bad feelings or other forms of conflict.

Social Distancing

A recent example of this that springs to my mind is the newly minted concept of social distancing which has been invented to assist us in limiting the spread of covid 19.

Social distancing is the new norm, yet I personally perceive it to be loosely practiced by so many people of encounter these days, that is in the outdoor or work space context (Where I live indoor social events are against the law based on a declared health emergency.)

My wife and I go for a walk daily and are constantly annoyed by those that do not move to single file on a narrow path or move to the side so we can move by each other with a six foot distance.  What is not to get about social distancing, it should be the norm?

Let’s all Live Together People

While I am a big proponent of live being all about me, it is my life, we all need to realize (including me) live without others is not possible and getting along, that is accepting some behavior standards is not only the polite thing to do it is the right thing to do.

The consequences of not social distancing are not readily apparent but it not just about breaking behavioural norms it can lead to some very negative results, even death.  So fellow walkers, be courteous, be aware, take care.