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Coaching

When we are lucky enough for someone to take the time to instruct or train us on how to improve the way we act or behave in order to enable us to attain greater achievements, we should embrace the opportunity.

People in these roles are often called coaches or mentors.  Surprisingly many of us resist a coaching or mentoring opportunity.  To some extent, this is due to personal pride and a strong feeling of independence.

I Don’t Need Help

Unfortunately or maybe it is fortunate, we all need help.  Humans are described as social animals for a reason.  With few exceptions, we need to interact with others.

None of us are so great as to not benefit from others knowledge and ideas.  This does not mean we need to accept or adopt them but sharing/collaborating has been demonstrated in study after study to lead to better results.

Even the outstanding individual athletes require and also have coaches.  Filtering what helps and what does not is a task for the coachee, not everything is of value but if you refuse the instruction or training you miss the chance to be the best.

Coaching Quality

How we coach or mentor others very much determines the receptivity to the teaching.  Not just knowing what is the best method is needed for good coaching.

More importantly, you need to know how to communicate in a way that is understood.  Providing clear benefits in a way that is understood will motivate the trainee much better than telling them to “just do it” or as some coaches are want to be “just fucking do it”.

Impact and Influence

We can exert an effect on the character, development, or behavior of someone or something to cause a change.  The results of our influential behavior can have a strong effect on outcomes (i.e., a real impact).

Impact and influence are two of the most powerful tools in the leaders kitbag.  These terms become more powerful when described in the context of invisible influence leading to beneficial impact.

Success through Others

Successful leaders are determined by their accomplishments.  In some cases these are personal accomplishments but most often they are result of group and team efforts.

The leader is recognized as the catalyst but without the dedication and skill of a variety of other stakeholders, failure is likely on the horizon.

Leveraging the ability of others to effectively create an impact, using indirect guidance, is the art of influence.  A key to success is the invisibiity of the influence behavious.

Put another way, influencing other people to achieve great positive inpact without anyone recognizing what you are doing. 

Recognition 

The positive achievements lead to recogniton of those that actively did the work.  Without a strong and effective leader it is unlikely such outcomes would be achieved.

However, the leader is the background influencer whose satifaction lies not with receiving personal recognition for their part in the achievements.

That is to say, direct recognition is not needed, strong leaders know self gratification is enough.