Independent behaviour is characterized by actions that seem to not be influenced by other people, that is we resist the pressures to conform or obey others, rather we decide and act on our own.
Independence is a cornerstone measure of self esteem. Not to say high self esteem requires a lot of independent behaviour but rather choosing to act independently or to follow the direction of others comes easily and naturally and feels like a personal choice.
Independent living
Most cultures around the world if not all are founded on the principle of individual indepence built on a framework of societal dependence.
The level of control exercised by societies can vary significantly but largely the focus on basic human needs, food and shelter starts with the individual.
This concept of individuality has a genetic influence and during our lives the inate need for individual independence is balanced out by the environmental context. That is we learn conformance behaviour.
Accepting Dependence
Sometimes all of us benefit from, control direction and direct help of others. The optimum balance between dependnce and independence is a very individual assessment.
There is a balance, it would be impossible to operate fully at one end ofthe spectrum or the other, although conceptually this is what hermetic behaviour is trying to achieve. That is a very high level of independence.
Recognizing a balance does exist and seeking the best for you is the point of this post. If you need help, take it.
