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Random thoughts – keeping you on your toes

Peace

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Peace is a state of contentment and tranquility.  By definition a peaceful condition is free from war and violence.  Seems like a good place to be.  This raises the questions as to why everyone in the world is not in a state of peace.

Sounnds good, where do I sign up?

From a purely logical perspective (think of the fictional Vulcan race from the Star Trek TV series) everyones individual goal should be to attain a peaceful state.

It feels good, enhances your pleasure and enjoyment of life itself.  If everyone was in a peaceful state; war, violence and other conditions which break the peace would be non existent.

Terrorists , mass murderers, warring states, individual conflicts that lead to grief, none of these concepts would exist.  If everyone was at peace things that represent unpeaceful conditions would have no place.

Reality Intrudes

Although the fictional Vulcan race achieved this peaceful Nirvana by the consistent and uninterupted practice of behaving logically, we on Earth seem eons away from achieving it.

But why?  It makes no sense to not be peaceful always to everybody without exception.  It is logical.  And there is the rub, logical behaviour makes up only a very small part of the human psyche.

For this I have no explanation.   If I were in charge of evolution of the human species I would remove the brains capacity for all emotional and illogical thinking, thus eliminating the associated behaviors which do nothing but disturb the peace.

Sadly, I am not in charge.

 

 

Random thoughts – keeping you on your toes

Verbal Attack

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I have always wondered what the intent is of a verbal attack.. By this I mean phrases that start with the third person and end with an accusation or insult.

For example:

  • you make me mad, you are such an idiot
  • you don’t know how to communication, I can’t understand you
  • how dare you include me without my consent
  • Next time, I ‘d appreciate it if you did not do that

And the list goes on endlessly.

To What Purpose?

Although logic is my friend, for t(e life of me I cannot figure out the value equation behind these kind of messages.  Anyone who presumes they will be taken positively probably needs a rethink.

The shock value or bullying nature might be an attempt to schock a behaviour change but it should not take a rocket scientist to figure out attacks like this will never be well received.

Bullying in the Workplace

A common definition of bullying is acts or verbal comments that could ‘mentally’ hurt or isolate a person in the workplace.

These charges against your dignity or self esteem are simply verbal comments that cause mental anguish.  Yet, many continue to act as if this is acceptable behaviour.

Seeking Results

Although there must be some people who believe these direct blunt personal attacks can elicit the results they seek I learned long ago, that just is not the case.

While the immediate reaction might lead to the behaviour you desire the long term effects are always negative.  If I were to write a book about how to make enemies and build negative influence, this technique would figure prominently.

A word to the wise, when someone try’s this behaviour on you, respond bluntly and clearly.  For many of these bully’s this is the only response that works.

Random thoughts – keeping you on your toes

Managing Yourself in times of Sickness

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I have had a cold for a little over a week.  I am still going to work and doing as much as I can, such is my personal value system.  Over the week I have noticed my personal tolerance filter is greatly reduced.

This is an interesting side effect of some illnesses that affects not only me but others as well.  It’s not uncommon to hear someone say, “He’s just irritable because he’s not feeling well” or something similar.

Behaviour Filters

Undoubtably, colds and fever can affect our behaviour.  I would suggest though this is not best described as irritable.  Rather, we don’t have the energy to filter our actions so in effect are just more direct.

The directness might translate to “bad sorts” resulting from poor health.  More accurately we are probably acting the way we would like to but usually don’t.  After all we are social animals and don’t want others to think badly about the way we behave.

Quick to Anger

Whether sick or not, our ability to practice anger management is a critical part of how others percieve us.

Certainly, some do it better than others but most definitely make some attempts to control their potentialy violent actions driven from anger as much as they can (i.e. things like; shouting, pouting or some physical outburst).

When you are sick, this self control becomes much more difficult and episodes of poor anger management are far more likely.

Make Sure Others Know How You Feel

It makes sense to me to ensure others are aware of it when you are feeling ill.  The gains some level of sympathy and is helpful in offsetting the bad impressions people get when you act out for no other reason than you feel crumby and don’t have the energy for your normal level of self control.