I was recently asked by a colleague to add “esteemed” to a reference about their participation in a recent workshop exercise. Admired and respected are default attributes I expect of both myself and those I interract with so I found the request somewhat unecessary.

The concept of respect and admiration should not need highlighting.  If we behave according to the highest principles our actions, which dictate how others percieve us, will speak for themselves.

Trust but validate

Ronald Reagan is quoted as decribing his style for interraction with others as trust but validate.  His default approach is trusting, a behaviour that is both respected and admired.

However, straightforward trust in a world with con men and hustlers  whom for which trust is a flexible concept, does make validation activities prudent.

This should not be considered rude disrespectful but rather a necessary practice to reduce the risk of being mislead to our detriment.

Respect Needs no Acknowledgement

Trust and respect are bi-lateral behaviours that benefit all stakeholders.  These should be the cost of entry, that is good character begins with respect of others.

It should not be neccessary to explictly acknowledge this expected practice through use of adjectives like esteemed.  Rather it is probably more important to highlight cases where distrust and disrespect occur.

This identification, to those involved, of cases where changes in behaviour and attitudes are warranted will do more to create esteemed colleagues than false praise.