We each view different things as being of great significance or value as opposed to the perceived significance or value of other things.  This can be a very subjective measure.

As with so many things, the level of importance can be viewed by many as a state of fact but the interpretation of the facts remains subjective.  Is anything absolutely factually determined?

I’m Okay – You’re Okay

Back in the 1960’s the non-fiction book “I’m Okay – You’re Okay” by Thomas Harris opened me to some interesting concepts.  The book explored (among a number of other concepts) four simple life positions we all adopt from time to time.

1. I’m Not OK, You’re OK
2. I’m Not OK, You’re Not OK
3. I’m OK, You’re Not OK
4. I’m OK, You’re OK

Over time I substituted OK for  importance based on my observation of human behaviors and how we often treat each other.   So the life positions became:

1. I’m Not Important, You’re Important
2. I’m Not Important, You’re Not Important
3. I’m Important, You’re Not Important
4. I’m Important, You’re Important

For me, the fourth option was best, this translated to a value, “Everyone is important”

Subjective Analysis Aside

The importance we apply to others is a choice each of us makes.  By focusing exclusively on our own importance, option 3 or even perhaps the lopsided options 1 and 2 above we are only fooling ourselves.

Real pleasures and satisfaction can only be achieved in conjunction with the recognition that the happiness of the human race is truly based on the whole.

Everyone matters.  By reminding ourselves daily, I‘m important – You’re important we reinforce the basic tenant of humanity and position ourselves to live full filled and happy lives.

 

 

 

ourselves.