If the shoe does not fit, a wise person sets it aside.

We are all individuals to some extent, that is single,  separate,  discrete and independent.  

We are also members of groups (family, social, work) but retain a uniqueness that is distinctly associated with us alone.  Thus, not every situation or opportunity will be suitable or to our liking.

Discriminating

Some situations won’t suite your taste and good judgement while for other people they are fine even to be embraced.  We discriminate according to our individual wants/needs and likes/ dislikes.

For your own satisfaction it important to discriminate without guilt.  Allowing yourself to choose something that is not right for you can  only lead to bad outcomes.

You Choose

Although there may be some debate on the point, choosing is our right and although the forces of influence can be powerful enough to force choices against your will, on occassion, by and large you are in control and should only make choices that fit you.

Anything less will lead to undesirable outcomes.  When you accept the less then desirable option, you should not be surprised at the results .  Embrace your right to choose alternatives that meet your needs.

Compromise is sometimes an option where you might end up in a particular scenario because you bent to the will of others.

Optimally practicing flexibility is a desirable behaviour but rather than compromise seek a scenario that provides what everyone desires, that is, win/win.