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Random thoughts – keeping you on your toes

Behave Accordingly

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As I have noted in many past posts how  you and others view you is determined by your behaviour.  How your behaviour is interpreted varies based on perspective.

Basically though , you are to everyone, including yourself, composed of what you do.  Common and repeated go to behaviours form the essence of your personality.

Managing your Behaviour

You always have the opportunity to act in a way that is appropriate to the particular circumstances. Unfortunately it is not always crystal clear what constitutes appropriate, and even when it is that behaviour might not resonate with you.

The consequences of your behaviour might not be apparent until part way through what you have undertaken to do.

This makes it wise to constantly be aware of the results of your actions so you can modify them accordingly is search of better results, if desired.

For Example

If you are seeking to build trust, but show up late for meeting, frequently, this typically is not a good way to build trust, you might want change your behaviour accordingly.

The change you make could be to start repeatedly showing up early for meeting to offset the previous perception and rebuild peoples confidence you can meet their expectations.

Focus on your Goal

Your personal goal is often the circumstance to focus on when determining the appropriate behaviour.  This might mean your go to or personality based behaviours need to be overridden.

Any behaviour is possible, with concious thoughts and a little effort.  Acting accordingly, focused on your objective, e.g., building trust, requires you pick the best actions not  always those you might be most comfortable with.

Random thoughts – keeping you on your toes

Who are you?

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To truly understand who you are,  you must first understand how others see you.

This is not a riddle but rather intended to highlight the fact that whatever you think about your own personality, maturity or behaviour what really matters is the perspective of other people.

Knowing Yourself

Being aware of your habitual behaviours (your personality) can be valuable when your perspective on these behaviours matches that of the general population.

Simply put, how you perceive yourself is how you are perceived, ergo behavioural decisions you make are founded on an accurate base.

Unfortunately, the opposite can apply as well.  If your own behavioural assessment does not match that of those receiving the effects of your behaviour, adjustments you make to improve and thus enhance the way others view you, are based on false assumptions

In this case the impacts of your behaviours, and the changes you made to ensure positive impacts, most likely won’t lead to the results you expect/ hope for.

Validation

One of the most difficult things to achieve is an objective validation that your perception about what others think of you is accurate.  Anonymous web  surveys hosted by a disinterested third party can be very useful in this regard but this is not always a feasible option.

For me, this is where the skill of self awareness is really useful.  How you are perceived by others is telegraphed in hundreds of ways from body language, verbal retorts to just basic behaviours ( i.e., what others do or the absense of what they do)

Being sensitive to these signs and consciously analysing them all the time may require a little more effort than reviewing the results of an independent and anonymous survey, but it works.