I am not a appreciative of the expression of disapproval by someone  based on my perceived faults or mistakes (i.e., criticism).  After all, I can figure out and correct my own faults and mistakes.

The well known basketball player Lebron James said “I like criticism, it makes you strong.”. Really, how so?  For me, criticism makes me angry, not strong and I don’t like it.

The Value Equation

What gives more value, identifying, understanding and self correcting your own faults or being made to feel inadequate by some one else for whom your faults probably provide enjoyment.

Self awareness is a much more powerful tool.  Effective and sustainable change first requires personal accountability, that is acceptance of the need to change.

Think of an addict.  It is well known the first step to recovery is accepting the fact recovery is needed.  Telling the addict they are an addict (a form of criticism) seldom works.

Constructive Criticism

To be fair, maybe Lebron is thinking of constructive criticism.  What a croc.  This is the classic case of abusing the English language to make something bad sound good.

Just the fact that someone felt the need to invent the term to sugar coat the value of criticism is proof enough to me that in and of itself, regardless of the kind, criticism is a bad thing and really most people don’t get stronger, they just dislike you.

To Lebron, I say, stick to basketball.  When you next run into me, remember, I see no value in criticism so do me a favour and keep it to yourself.