Some times life is tough, things can be difficult.  We each have an enate capacity to overcome, that is take the hard stuff in stride and deal with it.

Resilience is about resolving your problems without them actually becoming a significant problem, that is follow these simple steps, accept, plan action, take action, no problem.  Perhaps slightly easier to write than execute.

The key concept is a belief that no problem, no obstacle is insurmountable.   This does begin with understanding and acceptance.

Identification

The first step to acknowledging a problem or obstacle exists goes beyond, well beyond, the initial discovery or realization something is up.

For ease I will outline this identification process with a relatively simple example, the process can apply to all problems but admittedly some cases are much more difficult.

Driving to work, your car suddenly becomes hard to steer and the ride is bumpy.  Your intial reaction is “flat tire” coupled with I will be late for work.  I am not dressed to change a tire. 

Other cars are getting impatient because I have stopped in the road way.  Emotions flood in, anger, fear, frustration.  Stop, think.  First what is the problem, cast aside the other thoughts for a moment.  Focus on the fact it is simply a flat tire.

Consider Options

What should I do with the car, leave in the road or pull over.  What are the consequences of each action and what makes most sense?

How do I deal with the flat, fix it myself, hire someone and if so what are the logistics.

These are just some of the rational ideas you can come up with to develop a resolution plan.  The key here is don’t let the obstacle or problem own you, you can own it.