Sometime when we are having a debate or trying to persuade someone to adopt our perspective we may find them unwilling or refusing to change their  views or to agree about something.

Or this intransigent behaviour could apply to ourselves, that is we might not be willing to compromise and  obstinately maintain our superior attitude.

Everyone is Important

For me, the best way to avoid being intransigent is to remind myself that embracing diversity of background and opinions is extremely powerful and effective.   Being obstinate can shut down rapport  very quickly, it is really the opposite of embracing others ideas.

This does not mean the thoughts and ideas of others take precedence over yours, although they might, but rather makes sure you treat others perspectives as important without summarily shutting them down.

For Example

I recently had an interesting discussion about my recent blog on the value and need to get vaccinated for covid to create a situation which eradicates spread of the disease.

At first my position was absolute brooking no argument until my obstinate behaviour became obvious to me.  I realized it was not necessary for me to agree or support the view of others (yes there are people who question the value of the virus) .

Assessing the information to date, both for vacinnes and against, Albeit how well articulated the detractors may be I find myself firmly pro-vaccine but much as I would like to simply dismiss the detractors this is no where near as powerful as continuing to work to persuade them of the correctness of my position.