Sometimes when it feels like you are swimming against the waters flow and will be swept downstream at any moment, don’t forget you are in control and making it to the other side is your choice.

It is often easier to just go along with others.  In many cases, this is the best approach, least stressful, and it can be fully satisfying.   However, that is not always true.

Most importantly following the crowd or going with the flow should be a conscious choice.  Do it because you want to not because others want you to.

Sheep Mentality

Sheep are often used to describe the follower mentality.  This animal species is well known for traveling in a pack.  The rare sheep that does not stay with the herd is labeled the black sheep (to highlight that they are different and perhaps not in a positive way).

Being part of a group can be the best approach for you but it should not be the default selection.  The group should not decide for you unless you want them to.

Social Animals

Humans are correctly classified as social animals and numerous psychology studies have demonstrated our need for positive interaction with others to maintain our mental health.

This does not mean you cannot swim upstream against the flow if that is the best thing for you.  However, it does require initiative and determination both of which are usually considered to be positive traits, within circumstantial constraints.

Unfortunately open but respectful independence should be a right but depending on your geographic location this is not always the case.

Notwithstanding the challenges, if you choose to take a different path because it is right for you, I applaud you.