Complaining

There are times when both myself and people I interface with express dissatisfaction or annoyance about something. It seems to be a common practice.

I always get a thrill (not) when those less than sympathetic folks tell me ” What are you complaining about, just fix it.  What’s your problem?”

Rhetorical Question

I am always puzzled when they ask me what my problem is.  Weren’t they listening, I just explained completely.  They must know the answer to their question so why are they asking?

Obviously they are trying to make a point.  Complaining resolves little although it may make you feel better (which is something) but in essence, the effort made to complain could be put to better use, for example toward solving the issue.

Natural Behaviour

While I don’t have empirical data about the natural inclination of people to complain my own observation n is that it is an endemic practice.

While the extent and ferocity of complaining varies by personality in my experience  everyone like to complain somewhat.  It seems a natural behaviour.

The value equation

I suspect there is some therapeutic benefit derived from sharing things you take issue with.  A real danger of this is the negative impact it may have on people you are sharing with.

Your complaint may cause others to act or feel in ways they would otherwise not.  Caution is prescribed when sharing with others to avoid creating a tidal wave of anxiety.

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